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Life Bite: Feminist Inequality in my Underwear Drawer!

In the great movement of ’embracing the female body’ I believe we have gone too far.
‘Women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful’. Okay, I accept this premise…to an extent.
Yes, curvy women are beautiful. Yes, no women should feel inadequate for being a size 12/14. Yes, society shouldn’t make a woman feel ugly for being larger.

BUT

A woman who is morbidly obese…200lbs and suffering major health issues as a result. Is this beautiful? No, it is not. And not because it’s ‘unnattractive’ (which is IS, but that’s not my main reason for seeing it as wrong.) But because it’s UNHEALTHY. Eating junk food and stuffing yourself full of fat and unhealthy foods (and if you’re morbidly obese, don’t tell me you eat super healthy and moderately etc., that CANNOT be true) is not healthy, it’s not good and it’s not ‘beautiful. Fine, if you’re ‘happy’ to look and be that way, then go ahead, but don’t you dare tell me I’m being unfair when I say it’s not good. It just isn’t.

The whole love your curves thing (although it doesn’t really apply to me) is great and I think that no woman who is a size 14 should be made to feel unattractve because of those curves, because you can be completely healthy at that size, in fact, a lot of women are. But there is a limit.

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And furthermore, in ’embracing curves’ I feel we are now discriminating against the ‘thin’. Some women have small builds and are naturally very slender. I am a size UK6, but I KNOW I eat healthily and also, a lot! I have chocolate and biscuits every day…like EVERY DAY; dinner is not over until I’ve had some chocolate for pudding. But I also eat a lot of fresh fruit and vegetables and whole grains. Every meal has carbs, I love bread and potatoes and pasta, but I eat MODERATELY and SENSIBLY. It doesn’t make me ‘annorexic’ or ‘unhealthy’ and I shouldn’t be discriminated against for being SMALL. Which I feel I can be.

I often have trouble finding clothes that fit me, as I have narrow hips (especially compared to my body itself…my hips are narrower than my shoulders and narrower than the standard ‘size 6 measurements’ which can be an issue for me. But I never have trouble pulling a size 16 off the rack. They are in abundance and I feel I am being discriminated against (a little, I’m not going to over exaggerate here…) for being smaller.

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Mostly, however, I find it in bras. The rise of the ‘plus size model’ (a term I don’t endorse, but it’s the generally accepted term and suits my needs here) and the embracing of ‘curvier’ girls means we now have bras up to and beyone 40K…which is fine, one of my oldest friends has a ‘G’ cup (which i used to be incredibly jealous of, but she does have back problems as a result, and I’ve learned to embrace my oppisite-end of the spectrum boobs) and she used to have big trouble finding bras. People were forever saying how unfair it was that bigger girls couldn’t buy NICE bra’s that fitted.

I can’t find NICE bras that are small enough. I am a 28A. I haven’t got much, but I still need some support! I can’t go bra-less, there’s enough there to make that a problem, but more and more lingerie specialists now are not making Bras in my size! Often I find a stunning set of lingerie (I had a major issue with this at the Cosmopolitan Lingerie Show), get all excited only to be completely broken hearted when they tell me (yet again) oh, we only start from 32B.

IMG_0294This set from ‘Gossard’ was my pick of the night, I was madly in love with it from the minute I saw it. I would have paid a lot of good money for the set, but guess what? Not in my size…They lost out on good money and a good customer (I’d have bought other things, such as the one piece further up if they’d had my size as well) because they don’t cater to the small. Fools!

In our desperate dash towards equality and embracing the ‘female body in whatever shape or size’ (or so they CLAIM) I think we’ve gone too far. Now there is inequality AGAINST smaller women. I get told I’m too skinny, or ‘figureless’. Fine, I don’t really care what you think, but I know I’m healthy, I know I eat well and I really resent not being able to wear nice clothes and especially lingerie because I’m small!!!

We’ve embraced cruvy women. We love our larger sizes and our curvier figures. They are catered for and accepted and loved. That’s great. I completely respect that and I think it’s wonderful. But, in all this, we’ve created a new inequality and a new discrimination. I can’t find a bra that fits. That isn’t fair. We’ve done the bigger sizes, the movement has been a success. Now can we please have a movement to re-accept the smaller figures please? I want to wear nice lingerie and clothes. Why should I suffer for having little breasts!!?!?!

Life Bite: Make it Happen, Make the Change

Short and sweet message: If you want something, make it happen. If you don’t like something, change it.

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It’s the approach I take to life, and it needs no real explanation and I don’t need to give direction here.

Are you unhappy? Okay, now look at your life…why are you unhappy? Who/what makes you feel bad. Who/What don’t you like. Who/What don’t you need?

Now you’ve identified the root, change it. If you don’t like something then change it. Your job? change it, find a new one, find what you love. You don’t like your partner, well, do I need to tell you what to do there? You have a ‘friend’ or person in your life who makes you unhappy? Say good-bye. You want to do something? Do it.

It’s simple. Mostly.

Okay, I accept that there are things we can’t change and we can’t just up and quit jobs, ditch people, completely change our lives and ourselves at the drop of a hat, but there is always SOMETHING you can do.

Okay, you hate your job, but you can’t just QUIT. Start looking at other options, maybe do some evening classes or go back to school to train in something you really want to do so that EVENTUALLY, you can quit that job you hate and start doing what you love.

This is the model and the method. It may not be easy, it may not always be quick and simple, but there is always something you can do and if something isn’t right in your life, then you CAN and you SHOULD change it.

If you want something bad enough, you will make it happen. Maybe it will take 5 minutes, maybe it will take 5 years, maybe it will even take a lifetime but if you don’t try for it, you’ll never get it. Always strive for what you want and that is how you will be the best you can be.

Life is short, happiness is what the ultimate goal of a life is (I believe). If you can get to the end of your life and say you are happy and have been happy through your life, then I believe that is as good as any other achievement of a lifetime. Happiness is the ultimate goal. So make it happen. You are not powerless, you own yourself and your life. So take control, take charge and own it!

Beauty Bite: The Fragrance Fix

There seem to be a couple of different schools of thought and approaches to fragrance.
Some people love to try all different types of fragrance and are always switching up their perfumes and sprays etc.
I prefer to have one fragrance and stick to it. Religiously!

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I have been involved in a love affair with Chanel no.19 since I was 16 (so we’re approaching our 5th anniversary!) and it’s a completely monogomous relationship! It goes on every morning when I get dressed and is topped up throughout the day. Pretty much without fail. (Unless I’m actually not leaving the house AT ALL…my flatmates just don’t care what I smell like!)

This comes from my childhood. For as long as I can remember, my Mum, Grandmother and Great Grandmother, who were all a big part of my life, all had their own ‘signature’ scents. They wore the same perfume all MY life and I associated them with those smells completely. I still think of my Great Grandma when I get a whiff of Chanel no.5 (the classic!) and although my Mum has recently changed her frangrance to Bobbi Brown’s ‘Almost bare’ (which is lovely by the way) I still feel her presence when I smell Eau De Ciel by Annick Goutal!

There’s a big connection between our sense of smell and our memories and experiences throughout life, so I see a lot of sense in having your own personal frangrance. My friends now all say they know when I’ve been round, beause they can smell my perfume where it lingers! And a year or so ago, a freind liked my Chanel 19 so much, she bought some, but she doesn’t use it because people kept saying she smelt like me!

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So, by all means, play with scents and fragrances, I think there are so many stunning scents out there and many that I love the smell of and would happily have as a home fragrance, but for me, I like to have one smell. People know me by it, they associate it with me and it’s also comforting for me. And whats more, because it’s so consistent, all my clothes smell of it now, after years of use, so I have to use less and less!

And I can always stock up in duty free too…

Our sense of smell is intrinsically linked to our emotional memories. A whiff of this or a gust of that smell can trigger a whole sequence of nostalgic memories, so I like to have a fragrance that is totally and utterly me. Chanel no.19 is young, yet timeless and a classic…no doubt I will change it at some point, but for now, it is my scent. People know it, they remember it and they associate it with me. it’s my signature scent and I love it!

Mind Bite: Feminism, Racism and Equality…My Big Issues!

In ‘fighting’ racism and sexism…are we actually perpetuating it?

political Over the course of my studies, I have spent a lot of time dealing with these two issues. Everything can be seen in terms of feminism, racism, equality (capitalism, consumerism,marxism,postmodernism,post colonialism…any ‘ism’ you’d care to mention actually) and to be honest, I’ve kind of had enough.

This is a rather different direction, post-wise than most of my others, but it’s a big part of my life and it’s been pressing on my mind for a while, so I thought I’d get it out there! It’s a rant, but I feel it’s a fairly well constructed rant!

I am female. I am a woman. Of course I want equality and equal standards and rights, but to be completely honest, I’m not a feminist. And most feminists completely piss me off.

I can’t really approach racism in the same way, never really having experienced it myself and not being the ‘typical’ target for it (“Hey, skinny white girl…” in the South East London area is the closest I get and to be honest…I am Skinny (ish) I am white and I am a girl…how could that be offensive anyway?)

My point is this: In our over-sensitised, ‘political-correctness-maddened’ society, I believe we are doing more to perpetuate and breed racism and sexism than we are to remove it. When we cast a black child in the role of Billy Elliot (a white, working class 12 year old son of a coal miner in the 80’s in Durham) is this about equality and fairness or are we just drawing attention to race as being something that differentiates us?

In the utopian world of equality for all, man and woman, black, white or asian would all be exactly the same, enjoy the same rights and no one would even consider their skin/gender in terms of defining them. Of course, this is not, nor will it ever be the case.

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We as human beings define ourselves by others. We can have no real sense of ourselves until we have encountered someone outside of ourselves and compared ourselves to them. And being as we make about 90% of our first impressions of a person on their appearance, gender and ethnicity will play a big part in defining both ourselves and others around us. I see no problem with this.

If two white, 20 year old women meet face to face and then you asked them about one another, answers like “she had blonde hair, she was tanned, she had lovely eyes, big lips, curly hair…etc” would not make you blink. And then if you asked them to make a judgement on the kind of person the other was based on only that brief encounter, an answer such as “she obviously takes care of herself, she was pretty, she makes an effort, she seemed very professional, she seemed care-free…etc” would also be acceptable. But this is because they are two white girls. If you mixed the race, suddenly ‘racism’ comes in to play and an answer “she’s black” becomes tricky and any judgement made about ‘the kind of person she seemed to be’ (based on minimal information) suddenly could be seen as ‘racist’.
We are so careful not to appear racist, that I believe we are actually being racist. If racism is judging and potentially discriminating against or having a certain opinion of a person based on their skin colour, then surely when we say “We have to have at least one black back-up dancer in this music video….we need a black presenter on the news etc” we are actually just being racist and perpetuating it. What if the white condidates are simply better? What if there is no genuinely suitable black substitute and WHITE people lose out in the name of ‘equality’? Is this not just judging someone for their skin colour just in another way?

I have plenty of ‘black’ friends, and one of best best childhood friends was Indian…but I never defined them by these terms. And if you asked me to point out my friend I would happily say “the black girl over there” and it’s not racist…it’s fact!

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The same goes for feminism and sexism. By constantly drawing attention to it, I believe we make it happen and cause it to continue. Any anyway, whats wrong with a few stereotypes?

I like shopping. Okay, I LOVE shopping.
I like make up, and hair and clothes and beauty and fashion and all ‘feminine’ things. So what? If people want to make a judgement about me based on that information, then they are entitled to. I don’t care, and if they want to treat me a certain way as a result, and I don’t appreciate their views and behaviours, then I don’t need them in my lives, I can move on and it doesn’t matter.

Stop being so sensitive. Everyone judges others based on appearances, stereotypes and initial snap judgements and impressions. It’s HUMAN NATURE! As animals, we had to judge if another animal was threat or not based on their APPEARANCE and our own EXPERIENCE AND INSTINCTS :
How did we know that the striped animal approaching was dangerous? A) Its sripey…but ORANGE and stripey, so its a tiger (not a zebra for example) B) We’ve seen people get eaten by tigers, so we know they’re dangerous C) It’s growling and has big teeth…stereotype suggests it’s dangerous so RUN!

The only information we have comes from our own past experiences, cultural stereotypes and what we see in front of our eyes. So of course we will judge someone based on those three elements. That doesn’t make it wrong, and we can always change our opinions…I don’t think anyone can say that the first impresssion they had of any given person didn’t change one bit upon getting to know them. Maybe we’ll be pretty accurate, maybe we’ll be completely wrong, but we can change our minds, develop our opinions and have new views. First impressions matter, but they are not the be all and end all and sometimes we need those first impressions just to go about or lives. Get over it.

nigellaAnd seriously, what’s with all the hate for Nigella becuse she’s ‘anti-feminist’, realistically, I don’t believe a female, ANY female, could possibly be anti-feminist! If she wants to claim power over he body and be all sexualised and such on her show, then let her. How is it anti-feminist? I love Nigella…

I appreciate that Racism and Feminism are issues which do need to be addressed. There are horrible acts of race-violence and murder and terrorism and some places, Women are treated horribly, but I am talking in terms of this, our Western world (UK, but USA too and other ‘forward-thinking’ countries) and the society here. I’m not saying these aren’t issues, I’m saying that we often make them much more than they are/could be/need to be, or just create them when they weren’t there in the first place.

Stop fussing about being ‘politically correct’ and ‘equality’ and ‘equal rights’. We are all people, we are all different, we all do it anyway, maybe we just don’t say it and maybe its on a more subconscious level but we do it. Deal with it and don’t let it define you or your actions and all will be well.

And anyway, I’m a girl and I want equal rights, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t nice when a man hold the door open for me based on his internal first judgements of me. In fact, I quite like it!!

Life Bite: Get Organised!!

With so much going on in my life at the moment, and so many different things that need to be done, I have to make sure I’m organised. I need to stay on top of things, and keep track of what I’m doing, what needs to be done…if I’m not careful the small errands get away from me or I don’t factor in the time I need to get bigger tasks done! It also means I can be sure to keep up a social life and get out and about the eevnts and parties etc. that I want to go to, as I can plan ahead and make sure I get everything done around having a life!

These tips and tricks are mainly useful for Students, as that’s a huge part of my life at the moment, but there’s still something in here for everyone…for me, being organised is the key to living a full life!!

IMG_0179The three things in life I wouldn’t get anywhere without…and the iPhone that this pic was taken with!

I have everything on this laptop. All the reading lists, schedules, timetables, deadlines, course breakdowns, essays, articles…everything for my uni courses is on here and it’s my first port of call when I need to get some work done! And I can’t stand a messy desktop or filing system…everything is filed away into conventient folders withing folders withing folders…But it means I can find exactly what I’m looking for when I want it. The same goes for off the laptop too though!

The iPad is more of a gadget and a toy, but I read everything on it. All of my books, both for leisure and any for my courses that come in ebook version or are electronic resources are on here and because it’s so light and compact, I always have it in my bag, so I can get some valuable reading done (whether for work or pleasure) wherever I am! I also have all my emails coming to the iPad as well as the laptop and iphone, so I never miss a trick! It’s also great to be able to type and do any little bits and pieces (ordering groceries, writing memo’s, emails, essay drafts, blog posts…) on the move without fiddling around on the iPhone.

And the book. I do not know how I would survive without the book. It’s my diary and it’s my to-so list and it has everything I ever need to know about what’s happening, when, where…

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If I could only give one piece of organisational advice, it would be this: Keep a diary and make to-do lists! I record all events and committments and appointments and lectures etc in the diary dection, but at the back I have individual day pages and I have lists of everything that needs to be done. I can keep track of what reading I need to do for what lectures (Friday I read for Monday’s lecture, Saturday for Thursday’s, Sunday for my Dissertation, Wednesday and Monday for my French Course etc.) but I can also move things around to suit what else I need to get done. If I can’t finish something one day, it goes straight on the next day’s pag and that way I keep on track of it all. I lvoe a good list, but it’s honestly my number one tip for staying on top of everything that needs to be done…even if it’s just making sure the recycling goes out for collection, or remembering to ring the landlord (again!)…today I defrosted the freezer!

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We also have a flat calendar so everyone knows who’s doing what, when and who will be in/out/available or of use at any given time without running around trying to communicate! We’re all dashing around and work very different schedules, so we often don’t see each other for days at a time, but we can leave notes for each other and sort things out much easier when we know what everyone’s doing. I can set up a meeting with the landlord when i know everyone will be in, without having to ring them individually and then call him back! He’s tricky, so you never want to leave it open-ended!

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For students; Files, folders, colour coordinate. Whatver works, but keep everything organised and together and in the right place! It makes it a thousand times easier to keep on top of work and get things done when you know where your notes for that particular lecture will be, or need to find a book while you’re dashing out because you’re late!!

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I love storage and organisation, as I’m sure you’ve gathered. But you can get pretty cheap units like these and keep everything where it should be! I have several of these little towers in my room, and I have a drawer for facial products, body products, hair products, nails, make-up, and many more…and then there’s the miscelaneous drawer! But keeping things where they should be just saves that extra time when you haven’t got much to spare.

And finally, it’s just about making time! I like to take care of myself as much as I have plenty to do. So I plan it in. I don’t sit and write down daily schedules (I’m not THAT crazy and neurotic!!) but I do map out the day in my head a little. I wake up at 6, because that’s when I’m up. It happens and it’s actually convenient, but I always make sure to plan the night before.

For example: If I have to be at work at 9, I need to leave at 8:10, so I need to be pretty much ready to go at 8, which means I need to eat breakfast at 7:30, which means I need to be ready at 7:15 which means I need to be IN the shower at 6:15, which means I need to get up at 6…see what I mean? I always over estimate, because I hate to be late and stressed out, but that’s the general idea! It means I allow time for my beauty routine, time to get the make-up on and time to sit down and eat breakfast and be well set for the day! I also plan and lay out my outfit for the day the night before to make myself all the more efficient the next day!

So really, as it turns out, my organisation tip is this: BE ORGANISED! Note things down, keep everything in one place and where it should be, make lists, make plans…and when you’ve done all that, go out and have fun! (As long as it’s in the plan…!!) I’m not saying be neurotic and if things go off schedule, it’s not the end of the world, but this way, you’re more likely to keep on top of things and make the time to relax and live your life!

Life Bite: the Versatile Blogger Award!

“The Versatile Blogger Award is an award given to you from your blogger peers, for writing quality posts that have somehow touched them, having good quality photographs, and the uniqueness of the subjects covered. The award is to honour the bloggers who bring something special to your life.”

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It was such a lovely surprise to get up this morning and see that I’ve been nominated for this award! After I was nominated for the Liebster Award on the weekend, this is just a great addition to what’s been something of a good week for me! I’m touched because I do really strive to have a varied content and discuss all aspects of life…although admittedly it’s been rather beauty and fashion centric at the moment!

My blog is about living life to the full, in a scultpted and curated kind of way and filling it with things you enjoy and make you happy. Like I’ve said, Look Good, Think Good, Feel Good…Live Good. So it’s really nice to see that others have seen this is my blog, so thank you very much Charlotte from Makeup by Candlelight! Go and check out her blog, it’s great and for me there’s something about the concept of beauty and makeup by candlelight that I find beautifully luxurious!

The rules of the Versatile Blogger Award are as follows:
  • Display the award certificate on your blog
  • Announce your win and thank the blogger who nominated you
  • Present 15 deserving bloggers with the award
  • Link your nominees in this post and let them know of their nomination with a comment
  • Post 7 interesting things about yourself

Now…7 Interesting things…hmm…

1. I study Theatre and Performance at a very avant-garde Uni…but I’m probably the least ‘Drama-student’ Drama Student ever…

2. I grew up in Wales but I’m 4/8ths Scottish, 3/8ths English and 1/8th Irish…So I would say I’m truly British!

3. I’m a proper Lord of the Rings Nerd…I’ve read all the books + The Silmarillion, The War of The Ring, The Journey To Mordor and The History of Middle Earth…and I do not intend to stop…I know an excessively geeky amount about Middle Earth…

4. I did Kung Fu for years and have an Orange Belt in the Shaolin Qu Shi discipline.

5. I simply adore cooking. I will cook anything, any time, for anyone! Experimenting with flavours and foods and different combinations and techniques is what I love to do…but I don’t get to as often as I’d like because I’m poor and I cook for one when I’m at home…When I visit my parents or cater meals for my grandmother or parents’ dinner parties/lunches I get to go all out…next on the agenda is Individual lamb Shank and Ale Pies (complete with the bone sticking out of the pastry!) and some sort of trio of chocolate with caramel baskets and brandy snaps…

6. I hate exercise. I will avoid it at all costs!

7. For longer than I’d care to admit, I thought that eating Peanuts made you need to go to the loo…because when I was about 5, my Dad told me “Don’t eat too many of the nuts, they’ll make you want to pee…” Childish humour from a Dad, childish naivety from a child…

So thats a rather random load of information about me, I’m sorry I’m not more interesting!

That’s all from me for now, but new posts are on their way! Now, the bloggers I’m nominating are:

Hailey at Red Running Hood
Megan from Chic is the New Black
Sophie-Pearl from Imitation is the Greatest Form of Flattery
Fei at Peonies and Lilies
Megan at The Briar Rose Blog
My Fair Lala
Tess at Plastic Bows
Breakfast at Bergdorfs
Kirsty at A Yellow Brick Blog
Hayley at Tea Party Beauty
Becky at Bex and the City
Lola at Lola’s Patchwork
Molly at What Molly Loves
Steph at Steph’s Inside Voice
Laura at The Style Doll

Lots of love xx

Life & Fashion Bite: The Cosmopolitan Lingerie Show!

On Monday night, me and a couple of girlfriends headed across London (in the cold!) to the Cosmopolitan Lingerie Show! The venue, One Marylebone, is actually a church, and was floodlit with vivid pink lighting and looking rather impressive! Heading upstairs, there were plenty of stalls to peruse, a hair styling station and a nail bar, as well as free fizz (I don’t think we can call it champagne…!) and delicious macaroons at the Ann Summers’ stand by the door!

IMG_0191There were freebies galore and I won some brilliant scarlet ruffle knickers in a lucky dip! Unfortunately, they’re too big for me, but I might just have to let that go and wear them anyway…although I’m not sure it’s a very sophisticated look…maybe it I have a cancan party to go to! We’ll see!

IMG_0402The fashion show took place downstars and there were vivid pink cocktails (Trying to pretend to be Cosmopolitans I think….) and plenty of delicious canapee’s! A couple of rather tasty waiters bringing them around as well…

IMG_0197The first half of the show began with a speech from the founder of the ‘Coppa Feel’ charity – This charity is admirably striving to promote breast cancer awareness and really trying to spread the message to girls, women and even men that checking your breasts thoroughly and regularly is really vital in catching Breast Cancer early. The disease affects thousands and can be cured if caught early, but sadly, it so often is missed and is only treatable – as the founder of the Charity demonstrates – she was diagnosed in her early 20s but it was caught too late and she lives with it today. I have a great deal of admiration for both her and the charity, and think it’s a really inspiring message…I’ve been touched in my life by cancer of several forms, Breast Cancer being one of them, and I know the vital importance of checking yourself often…Not that I have much to check!!

I absolutely adore lingerie, and I’m a big fan of matching sets! I always buy the matching bottoms for my bras, normally in a couple of styles and pairs so I can wear the bra more than once between washes (dry clean only does not get washed after every use! I am not made of money!) So I pretty much fell in love with almost every set that was paraded through the audience…take a look:

Lingerie 1Lingerie 4I love the florals that are showing in the spring lines, especially these three, I want them all!!

Lingerie 2These reds are gorgeous, and I’m madly in love with the set on the right from Gossard, but they don’t have my size..!!

Lingerie 3All of the lines were showing a lot of this turquoise/teal green for their spring collections, and I think it’s a stunning colour…but guess what? Not in my size!!!

Lingerie 5It was great to see some ‘plus size’ models…I don’t really like the term to be honest, and these ladies looked fabulous…aside from anything else, they get to wear the lovely lingerie and I can’t because I’m TOO SMALL!!

After the first half of the show, we had a browse back upstairs and had our nails done! Can’t pass up a quick manicure opportunity! I visited Rigby and Peller, who I have always loved, but can’t often afford, and they have some simply stunning nightwear (lingerie as well, obviously) in their current lines…beautiful silk robes and chemises and little lacy nighties and slips. I wanted to climb inside their racks (no pun intended…!) and spend the night!

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Picked up our gift bags as well, and boy are they great! They really delivered here…hair products, make up, a couple of pieces of lingerie and a lovely nightie from Freya (Which is too big, but I’ll survive!) as well as a few little snacks; Popchips (my absolute favourite savoury snack at the moment!) and some divine little hazelnut pralines from Cadbury’s…mmmm!

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Second half of the show was ‘after-dark’ themed I guess…we got a lot sexier and some more to-die-for sets on show….:

Lingerie 6I’d happily have all of these please…

Lingerie 7I can’t be entirely sure whether they’re advocating a sort of lingerie-party-wear look for evening dress, of whether its artistic styling….I hope it’s the latter! As much as I could ALMOST wear the middle ‘outfit’ out, it’s a bit see through when you look closer!!

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Lingerie 9I won’t lie to you, I was a bit more interested in the Trench-coat that the lingerie beneath, but I think the sequinned set on the left is a great little ‘festive’ look!

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Lingerie 8Cute little pieces but all I could think was “Why is the model in red wearing an eye-mask…like you’d actually SLEEP in that underwear?!!” I’m not a fan of Ann Summers, and lots of ruffles and too much ‘kitch’ but they’re quite cute and if they’re your taste, head over to Ann Summers!

A really fun night, and some great looks in the lingerie department for the Christmas and Spring lines coming up. Definitely check out the new Freya, Rigby & Peller and Gossard lines, they are to die for! And Curvy kate is great for the curvier ladies out there…absolutely no use to me but…D-K Cups rejoice!

And, as a special treat for you all, I picked up a couple of Discount Vouchers and I’m going to share the codes with you all!

Get 20% Off Full-Priced Lingerie at Gossard until 14th November: Enter ‘COSMO20’ at the checkout!
Get 10% Off Figleaves’ Erotique Collection until 11th November: Enter ‘EROTIC10’ to claim!

So although there seems to be some ‘prejudice’ against people with little boobs and small backs (Okay, full disclosure, I’m a 28A…) I just adore lingerie. There’s nothing like wearing a stunning matching set to make you feel really good about yourself. Even though no one sees it (unless they’re lucky!), it’s really great to feel sexy underneath all day long!

Life Bite: The Liebster Award!!

liebster-awardSo, I received a lovely surpise yesterday evening as I was cooking dinner (dressed in my lovely Hush pyjamas and looking rather terrifying with my Ren Face Mask on…) It seems Selina from The Kitten in Heels has nomintated me for the Liebster award! Okay, admittedly I didn’t really know much about what it was, but I saw the word award and that was good enough for me! It was completely unexpected, to be honest I’m fairly confident that very few people read my blog…which is fine, as I like writing for me, but I hadn’t dreampt that I’d be nominated for an award so thanks so much, Selena!

So basically, there seem to lots of different rules floating around about this award, so I’m just going with ther simplest and following the example set by my lovely sponsor! I’ll answer her 11 questions, and then create 11 new questions for the lovely ladies that I nominate, and the chain continues…

I think this award is a great idea: there are so many people starting up blogs or getting started in writing, which I think is brilliant because it’s such an accessible tool and vehicle for exploring your own imagination, writing skills and thoughts and opinions etc. It’s nice to see that people are keeping an eye on the little people!!

Alright, time to answer some questions!
1. Shopping or sleeping?
– Easiest question in the world. First of all, I don’t sleep much, I get by on 5-6 hours sleep a night pretty much always and I wake up at 6am every day…without fail…always…even when the clocks change!! So sleep was never going to win, but secondly…I adore shopping! Like, crazy…It doesn’t matter who or what I’m shopping for, I love it! Present and gift shopping for Xmas is almost narcotic for me…clothes shopping, for me or for others, furniture and interior design shopping I LOVE and even grocery shopping…I do love a trip around Waitrose!

2. Winter or summer?
Summer, summer, summer, summer…I LOVE SUMMER! I hate the cold. I cannot stand being cold, and I get cold easily, so when it’s really cold out, I’m like…nitrogen cold. There are plusses about winter though: I adore Xmas and put up with the cold for that…Xmas should be cold and wintery, it would be wrong otherwise, and Winter clothes are lovely, but the cold beats me down. I can cope with heat…I’ve dealt with 50c heat and I would hands down rather be too hot than too cold!

3. ZOMBIE APOCALYPSE!!! What do you do?
A lot of my mis-spent asolescence was ocupied in dealing with this question…no idea why. So there’s two answers to this question. Answer one: Immediately go underground, stockpile weapons and tinned food and blankets and clothing and medical supplies as well as as much fuel as I could muster. Work with a small team on reinforcing a truck or lorry in secret. Load the truck with supplies and then take to the streets. Swords not guns would be the more effective weapon of choice. Survival yeah!
But answer two is probably the real truth: Scream, panic and probably die withing 3 nanoseconds…

4. If you could go ANYWHERE in the world, where would you go and why?
Well the answer will change over time, but at the moment, New Zealand. I am desperate to go, the scenery, the culture, the entire entity of New Zealand…it calls to me! Oh, and the Lord of the Rings thing…but of course, once I go to New Zealand the answer here would change…There’s South America, Egypt, Japan, South of France (okay, I go to the South of France every year, but I love it so much I’ll always want to go back!)

5. Lightsaber or Batmobile?
Being as I’m totally not into either Star Wars or Batman, this is tough. I guess the Batmobile…nothing beats a kick-ass ride!

6. Preferred superpower?
Like witch-powers…conjouring I guess. The ability to make anything I want or don’t want appear or dissappear as I choose (objects and physical entities as well as ‘events’). Odd I know…

7. What’s your favorite book (or movie) of all time?
Okay, nerd alert, The Lord of the Rings. The Books, the Movies. Hands down everytime. In fact, no words can explain the relationship I have the The Lord of The Rings.

8. What are you most afraid of? (Spiders anyone?)
Well, I am not a fan of spiders, but I’m becoming more immune to them. I just kill them from afar now I’ve perfected the technique. This is actually tough to answer seriously. Peopbably the loss of a loved one. I’m pretty confident I would fall apart if I lost one of my parents…Heavy eh?

9. Someone offers you $100 MILLION in exchange for your identity… Would you do it?
Uh, yeah. Unless you mean in a literal sense. If all they want is my ‘official identity’ then they’re welcome to it, I’ve got records and fines and points on my licence…credit card bills and all that, if they want it they can have it! But I guess if you mean my ‘personality’ and ‘inner-being’ it would take more information…what would happen to me and my consciousness? How does this work etc. Am I thinking into this too much?!

10. What was the greatest moment with your best friend?
I could not say. I’ve had too many best friends and too many experiences…it’s very hard. Although, standing at the summit of a Himalayan mountain with one of my best friends (at the time, we haven’t spoken in months now) was pretty extraordinary. But then. I was fairly ill at the time so it wasn’t that ‘great’. I think when you can say you’re completely happy and content then that’s the greatest moment you could ask for. And I can happily say I’ve experienced that!

11. Do you like Nutella?
Why yes, I do like nutella. But I don’t eat it often. Nutella and peanut butter fudge brownies are a speciality of mine, but I only EVER make them when I go to visit my parent and brother. They are a heart attack in a baked good and about 5lbs in a bite!

 

And now, the two lovely ladies I’m nominating:

Anakiya at A Day in the Office and Annabel at Work That Style

My Questions:

1. Classic Style or roll with the trends?
2. Trip to the spa or DIY mani-pedi-facials?
3. Dog or cat person, and why?
4. White, Dark or milk chocolate? (And do not tell me you don’t like chocolate!)
5. Favourite event/holiday/celebration of the year?
6. Best James Bond? (We all KNOW Pierce Brosnan was the best…but who’s your favourite?)
7. Ultimate holiday destination and why?
8. If you could only eat, drink and wear one meal/beverage/outfit for the rest of your life, what would they be and why?
9. Favourite colour?
10. Red, White or Rose? Or does it have to be bubbly!?
11. Urban girl or Country at heart?

 

There we go, thanks again Selena for nominating me, and I look forward to seeing Anakiya and Annabell’s answers!

 

Life Bite: A Dieting Rant Pre Autumn Slim-Down!

I’ve been seeing a disturbing amount of poor dieting advice and down-right unhealthy weight loss ideas flung about all over twitter and the general web-o-sphere recently, and it’s really getting on my nerves, so I’ve decided to do a short post on the ‘Autumn Slim Down’!

It’s not a traditional time of year to be embarking upon a new diet or trying to shed a few pounds, but after the holidays of the Summer months and ahead of the decadence of the Christmas period, I feel that now is the perfect time to get back in shape; even if only so that we can splurge all the more over Christmas!!

As I’ve repeatedly mentioned, for me October is the real beginning of Autumn and a fresh start and time for a new beginning. So a new Autumn diet? Why ever not!

I’m not about to post a whole bunch of recipes and build diet plans and calorie counts etc: I’m not offering a service or trying to sell something, all I’m going to do is give my advice and my own experiences on dieting and being healthy.

Even if you’re not looking to lose weight, eating healthy is important! It’s good for the skin, for the mind and for the heart and soul! You will have more energy, a clearer mind and will feel a whole lot better with a diet full of fresh, natural ingredients and a good balance of nutrients!

There are two things that really get me when it comes to health and dieting;

Firstly, all the fad-diets and solutions and products and pills and downright awful advice. Low carb – I tried it for a while a couple of years ago – the weight does come off, but guess what? When you try to start eating normally again, you put it all back on! High Protein – awful for the kidneys and gives you bad breath and is, once again, not a long term solution. Juicing, Low-Gi, Raw-Food…the list goes on and to be honest, they’re all a bunch of nonsense and they’re so damaging to your health and body in the long (and short) term!

Secondly, a poor diet really really irritates me. The obesity in the world, the constant stream of fast food and the overwhelming dependency on the cheap, quick, easy take-away food really gets to me and just makes my skin crawl and blood boil! I get overwhelmingly bewildered by my flatmate, who doesn’t appear to eat a fresh, home-cooked or remotely healthy thing EVER. Sugar-packed cereal in the morning, supermarket meal-deal for lunch and frozen Pizza/Battered Fish/Kebab/Burger/Battered Chicken etc. for dinner and then endless bags of cookies and doughnuts and sugar-coated baked goods throughout the day. He’s not fat, but he’s incredibly unhealthy and it’s going to catch up to him!

But I’m not preaching or anything…!

Honestly, I do eat sweets and chocolates and biscuits and eat a fair amount of ready meals (being as busy as I have been, sometimes you need something quick!) but I always add a whole load of fresh veg to the meals and try to choose ones that are less processed and have fewer artificial ingredients and preservatives in them. I’m not saying don’t do it, I’m saying do it less!

When it comes to dieting, the only formula you need to know is this: Reduced calories = Reduced Weight. Cut down on the calorie intake and you will lose weight, it’s fact, its science and it’s general common sense. The problem is, so many people are out for a quick fix (we are the instant gratification generation after all!) that they want instant results so cut their calories massively and then end up falling off the wagon after two weeks due to what is literally starvation and as a result of not having seen the completely unrealistic results they were hoping for.

So reduced calories. I could talk about TDEE and BMR and all the rest, but I don’t see the point, I’m no expert and you can find that info freely elsewhere. What I’m saying is, cut the calories, but NOT TOO MUCH!! The general consensus seems to be 1200, but I think even that is too low. 1300 at the least. The weight loss is slower, but the results will be more permanent and you will be able to actually stick to the diet effectively for a prolonged period of time!

By cutting out around 500 calories a day you are set to lose about 1lb. a week (or more depending on your stats) and although that doesn’t seem like much, the thing about weight loss is that it needs to be a lifestyle change. You need to set yourself up with habits that will last a lifetime, not just 2 months on the diet! If you take it slow and learn new habits and a new way of life then you will be able to MAINTAIN the weight loss and hopefully never have to diet again!

So what have I said…oh, that’s right, EAT LESS TO LOSE WEIGHT! Don’t rush into it and don’t expect a miracle, it won’t happen like that. I yo-yo dieted for years but it’s only in the last year that I really found out how to lose weight, keep it off and not go completely crazy thinking about weight/food/dieting etc all the time. A small cut makes a big difference in the long run.

When I say eat less, I also mean, eat less but balanced. Every meal should have carbs, protein and AT LEAST one portion of fresh fruit or vegetables. I will post a few meals and recipes at some point highlighting this, but what I’m saying here is, DO NOT DENY YOURSELF! Denying yourself things just creates an obsession. So I have chocolate, I have crisps, I have anything I want as long as I’m careful about what else I eat. And it works, it truly and honestly works.

The reason why the crazy diets such as no-carb, low-Gi, Raw-Food etc work for a while is because they cut out a huge food group and therefore force you to dramatically reduce your calorie intake, but the problem is that they don’t teach you a lifestyle – do you really want to never have a carb again? – and the minute you go off the diet and try to eat ‘normally’ again, you put all the weight back on (and often more!) That and you can do some irreparable damage to your body and metabolism and mental health. Look after your body for god’s sake, we don’t get to trade in every 24 months!

So don’t deny yourself, but don’t over-indulge every day. It’s fine to indulge on holidays, or at Christmas or for special events, but don’t make it an everyday habit! Everything in moderation!

Eating Healthily really requires these same rules, but without the calorie reduction. Eat something from every food group (those pyramids that they’e always showing us…) and make sure you have as much organic, clean, fresh, un-processed food as possible. But always allow yourself treats! Eat what you like, and find new ways to introduce the healthy foods into your diet – I love risotto, but it’s so stodgy and I’ve recently invented a quinoa based variation that I love! I will post the recipe some time. But finding ways to make your favourite ‘un-healthy’ meals more healthy and clean is the way to go!

Goodness, this was supposed to be a quick note, but it seems to have spiralled out of control! I just get very irritated with all the dieting advice that claims to be expert and healthy and effective etc. and it actually just an utter load of crap!

Basically, eat fresh stay fresh! If you eat less, then you will weigh less…it’s really as simple as that. A healthy diet is the best thing you can do for yourself, in every way. Your diet affects everything about you, from your sight, to sleep, to concentration, physical appearance, mental health and even IQ! So make sure that it’s a good one! Never deny yourself, but learn moderation! Eat as healthily as you can but allow yourself indulgences and you will be just fine. Whether you want to lose weight or not, eating a balanced, healthy diet is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

Life Bite: National Wedding Show Blues!!

Life Bite: National Wedding Show Blues!!

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So…I won some VIP tickets the The National Wedding Show courtesy of Bare Minerals and I took my friend, Emma, along last Sunday to see what it’s all about! It’s a bit lat I know, but then…are weddings and all that come with them a time sensitive subjects (aside from when planning your OWN wedding of course…)

National Wedding Show

My first reaction; My god, I had no idea how much was needed in arranging a wedding! I mean…dresses, shoes, cake, photos, favours, entertainment, food, drink, venue, honeymoon, invitations, stationary, suits, hair, make-up…the list just goes on and on and on and on and on and…you get the picture!

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We were presented with free glasses of bubbly and a lovely little goody bag and settled down to watch the catwalk show. There were some gorgeous dresses and some vulgar dresses! I’d never before even thought of it, but there were some absolutely stunning 1920’s art deco style dresses which I was in love with – I adore 1920’s-30’s fashion, and if I could pick another time to live in, it would be that era, under the right circumstances of course!

But it made me a think; Isn’t it unfair that we can’t just wear wedding dresses in everyday life? If anyone’s seen that episode of Friends when Monica, Rachel and Phoebe dress up in wedding dresses to do house work etc. Then they’ll get what I mean. Why shouldn’t we be allowed to casually just go and get a lovely wedding dress just to wear out in the evening? Why are we only allowed to wear it (ideally) once, for one day in our entire lives?

But anyway, enough bitterness…

I picked up some lovely bargains, and freebies from Bare Minerals, including a great deal on a face-eyes-lips favourites set and then a free lip gloss in a rather vivid berry shade. I don’t normally do lips so we’ll see how that goes. I’ll review the haul from TNWS later on this week when I’ve truly tested the merchandise!
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Around the stands, there were a whole bunch of bizarre ideas and some really fun ones: photo booths at the reception? Initially I thought it was a horrible idea, but after having played around in them, I think I’ve been converted!

Also, one company provides a service where they do interviews with guests, family members etc…take pictures and do a whole bunch of work to produce a full-on magazine of your wedding! Initial thoughts – oh no, how horrible! But then…another fantastic idea!

So basically what I’m saying is…I want to get married!

Or rather, engaged I think. I spent the day getting all this special treatment and being looked after and given free things and it was so nice! You totally get special treatment when people think you’re a bride to be! Maybe I should just spend the next few years pretending I’m engaged…

Or is that a little sad?
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Your wedding is supposed to be ‘the most special day of your life’. All eyes are on you, everyone is celebrating you, you get to wear a gorgeous dress and it’s all about what you want. What I want to know is, why only one day in our entire lives? I think everyone should  get a ‘wedding day’ on a regular basis! Or a non-wedding day…I’m rambling…

…I need to find me a nice, handsome and preferably very, very wealthy man!!