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Life Bite: Feminist Inequality in my Underwear Drawer!

In the great movement of ’embracing the female body’ I believe we have gone too far.
‘Women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful’. Okay, I accept this premise…to an extent.
Yes, curvy women are beautiful. Yes, no women should feel inadequate for being a size 12/14. Yes, society shouldn’t make a woman feel ugly for being larger.

BUT

A woman who is morbidly obese…200lbs and suffering major health issues as a result. Is this beautiful? No, it is not. And not because it’s ‘unnattractive’ (which is IS, but that’s not my main reason for seeing it as wrong.) But because it’s UNHEALTHY. Eating junk food and stuffing yourself full of fat and unhealthy foods (and if you’re morbidly obese, don’t tell me you eat super healthy and moderately etc., that CANNOT be true) is not healthy, it’s not good and it’s not ‘beautiful. Fine, if you’re ‘happy’ to look and be that way, then go ahead, but don’t you dare tell me I’m being unfair when I say it’s not good. It just isn’t.

The whole love your curves thing (although it doesn’t really apply to me) is great and I think that no woman who is a size 14 should be made to feel unattractve because of those curves, because you can be completely healthy at that size, in fact, a lot of women are. But there is a limit.

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And furthermore, in ’embracing curves’ I feel we are now discriminating against the ‘thin’. Some women have small builds and are naturally very slender. I am a size UK6, but I KNOW I eat healthily and also, a lot! I have chocolate and biscuits every day…like EVERY DAY; dinner is not over until I’ve had some chocolate for pudding. But I also eat a lot of fresh fruit and vegetables and whole grains. Every meal has carbs, I love bread and potatoes and pasta, but I eat MODERATELY and SENSIBLY. It doesn’t make me ‘annorexic’ or ‘unhealthy’ and I shouldn’t be discriminated against for being SMALL. Which I feel I can be.

I often have trouble finding clothes that fit me, as I have narrow hips (especially compared to my body itself…my hips are narrower than my shoulders and narrower than the standard ‘size 6 measurements’ which can be an issue for me. But I never have trouble pulling a size 16 off the rack. They are in abundance and I feel I am being discriminated against (a little, I’m not going to over exaggerate here…) for being smaller.

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Mostly, however, I find it in bras. The rise of the ‘plus size model’ (a term I don’t endorse, but it’s the generally accepted term and suits my needs here) and the embracing of ‘curvier’ girls means we now have bras up to and beyone 40K…which is fine, one of my oldest friends has a ‘G’ cup (which i used to be incredibly jealous of, but she does have back problems as a result, and I’ve learned to embrace my oppisite-end of the spectrum boobs) and she used to have big trouble finding bras. People were forever saying how unfair it was that bigger girls couldn’t buy NICE bra’s that fitted.

I can’t find NICE bras that are small enough. I am a 28A. I haven’t got much, but I still need some support! I can’t go bra-less, there’s enough there to make that a problem, but more and more lingerie specialists now are not making Bras in my size! Often I find a stunning set of lingerie (I had a major issue with this at the Cosmopolitan Lingerie Show), get all excited only to be completely broken hearted when they tell me (yet again) oh, we only start from 32B.

IMG_0294This set from ‘Gossard’ was my pick of the night, I was madly in love with it from the minute I saw it. I would have paid a lot of good money for the set, but guess what? Not in my size…They lost out on good money and a good customer (I’d have bought other things, such as the one piece further up if they’d had my size as well) because they don’t cater to the small. Fools!

In our desperate dash towards equality and embracing the ‘female body in whatever shape or size’ (or so they CLAIM) I think we’ve gone too far. Now there is inequality AGAINST smaller women. I get told I’m too skinny, or ‘figureless’. Fine, I don’t really care what you think, but I know I’m healthy, I know I eat well and I really resent not being able to wear nice clothes and especially lingerie because I’m small!!!

We’ve embraced cruvy women. We love our larger sizes and our curvier figures. They are catered for and accepted and loved. That’s great. I completely respect that and I think it’s wonderful. But, in all this, we’ve created a new inequality and a new discrimination. I can’t find a bra that fits. That isn’t fair. We’ve done the bigger sizes, the movement has been a success. Now can we please have a movement to re-accept the smaller figures please? I want to wear nice lingerie and clothes. Why should I suffer for having little breasts!!?!?!

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Life & Fashion Bite: The Cosmopolitan Lingerie Show!

On Monday night, me and a couple of girlfriends headed across London (in the cold!) to the Cosmopolitan Lingerie Show! The venue, One Marylebone, is actually a church, and was floodlit with vivid pink lighting and looking rather impressive! Heading upstairs, there were plenty of stalls to peruse, a hair styling station and a nail bar, as well as free fizz (I don’t think we can call it champagne…!) and delicious macaroons at the Ann Summers’ stand by the door!

IMG_0191There were freebies galore and I won some brilliant scarlet ruffle knickers in a lucky dip! Unfortunately, they’re too big for me, but I might just have to let that go and wear them anyway…although I’m not sure it’s a very sophisticated look…maybe it I have a cancan party to go to! We’ll see!

IMG_0402The fashion show took place downstars and there were vivid pink cocktails (Trying to pretend to be Cosmopolitans I think….) and plenty of delicious canapee’s! A couple of rather tasty waiters bringing them around as well…

IMG_0197The first half of the show began with a speech from the founder of the ‘Coppa Feel’ charity – This charity is admirably striving to promote breast cancer awareness and really trying to spread the message to girls, women and even men that checking your breasts thoroughly and regularly is really vital in catching Breast Cancer early. The disease affects thousands and can be cured if caught early, but sadly, it so often is missed and is only treatable – as the founder of the Charity demonstrates – she was diagnosed in her early 20s but it was caught too late and she lives with it today. I have a great deal of admiration for both her and the charity, and think it’s a really inspiring message…I’ve been touched in my life by cancer of several forms, Breast Cancer being one of them, and I know the vital importance of checking yourself often…Not that I have much to check!!

I absolutely adore lingerie, and I’m a big fan of matching sets! I always buy the matching bottoms for my bras, normally in a couple of styles and pairs so I can wear the bra more than once between washes (dry clean only does not get washed after every use! I am not made of money!) So I pretty much fell in love with almost every set that was paraded through the audience…take a look:

Lingerie 1Lingerie 4I love the florals that are showing in the spring lines, especially these three, I want them all!!

Lingerie 2These reds are gorgeous, and I’m madly in love with the set on the right from Gossard, but they don’t have my size..!!

Lingerie 3All of the lines were showing a lot of this turquoise/teal green for their spring collections, and I think it’s a stunning colour…but guess what? Not in my size!!!

Lingerie 5It was great to see some ‘plus size’ models…I don’t really like the term to be honest, and these ladies looked fabulous…aside from anything else, they get to wear the lovely lingerie and I can’t because I’m TOO SMALL!!

After the first half of the show, we had a browse back upstairs and had our nails done! Can’t pass up a quick manicure opportunity! I visited Rigby and Peller, who I have always loved, but can’t often afford, and they have some simply stunning nightwear (lingerie as well, obviously) in their current lines…beautiful silk robes and chemises and little lacy nighties and slips. I wanted to climb inside their racks (no pun intended…!) and spend the night!

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Picked up our gift bags as well, and boy are they great! They really delivered here…hair products, make up, a couple of pieces of lingerie and a lovely nightie from Freya (Which is too big, but I’ll survive!) as well as a few little snacks; Popchips (my absolute favourite savoury snack at the moment!) and some divine little hazelnut pralines from Cadbury’s…mmmm!

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Second half of the show was ‘after-dark’ themed I guess…we got a lot sexier and some more to-die-for sets on show….:

Lingerie 6I’d happily have all of these please…

Lingerie 7I can’t be entirely sure whether they’re advocating a sort of lingerie-party-wear look for evening dress, of whether its artistic styling….I hope it’s the latter! As much as I could ALMOST wear the middle ‘outfit’ out, it’s a bit see through when you look closer!!

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Lingerie 9I won’t lie to you, I was a bit more interested in the Trench-coat that the lingerie beneath, but I think the sequinned set on the left is a great little ‘festive’ look!

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Lingerie 8Cute little pieces but all I could think was “Why is the model in red wearing an eye-mask…like you’d actually SLEEP in that underwear?!!” I’m not a fan of Ann Summers, and lots of ruffles and too much ‘kitch’ but they’re quite cute and if they’re your taste, head over to Ann Summers!

A really fun night, and some great looks in the lingerie department for the Christmas and Spring lines coming up. Definitely check out the new Freya, Rigby & Peller and Gossard lines, they are to die for! And Curvy kate is great for the curvier ladies out there…absolutely no use to me but…D-K Cups rejoice!

And, as a special treat for you all, I picked up a couple of Discount Vouchers and I’m going to share the codes with you all!

Get 20% Off Full-Priced Lingerie at Gossard until 14th November: Enter ‘COSMO20’ at the checkout!
Get 10% Off Figleaves’ Erotique Collection until 11th November: Enter ‘EROTIC10’ to claim!

So although there seems to be some ‘prejudice’ against people with little boobs and small backs (Okay, full disclosure, I’m a 28A…) I just adore lingerie. There’s nothing like wearing a stunning matching set to make you feel really good about yourself. Even though no one sees it (unless they’re lucky!), it’s really great to feel sexy underneath all day long!