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Life Bite: Make it Happen, Make the Change

Short and sweet message: If you want something, make it happen. If you don’t like something, change it.


It’s the approach I take to life, and it needs no real explanation and I don’t need to give direction here.

Are you unhappy? Okay, now look at your life…why are you unhappy? Who/what makes you feel bad. Who/What don’t you like. Who/What don’t you need?

Now you’ve identified the root, change it. If you don’t like something then change it. Your job? change it, find a new one, find what you love. You don’t like your partner, well, do I need to tell you what to do there? You have a ‘friend’ or person in your life who makes you unhappy? Say good-bye. You want to do something? Do it.

It’s simple. Mostly.

Okay, I accept that there are things we can’t change and we can’t just up and quit jobs, ditch people, completely change our lives and ourselves at the drop of a hat, but there is always SOMETHING you can do.

Okay, you hate your job, but you can’t just QUIT. Start looking at other options, maybe do some evening classes or go back to school to train in something you really want to do so that EVENTUALLY, you can quit that job you hate and start doing what you love.

This is the model and the method. It may not be easy, it may not always be quick and simple, but there is always something you can do and if something isn’t right in your life, then you CAN and you SHOULD change it.

If you want something bad enough, you will make it happen. Maybe it will take 5 minutes, maybe it will take 5 years, maybe it will even take a lifetime but if you don’t try for it, you’ll never get it. Always strive for what you want and that is how you will be the best you can be.

Life is short, happiness is what the ultimate goal of a life is (I believe). If you can get to the end of your life and say you are happy and have been happy through your life, then I believe that is as good as any other achievement of a lifetime. Happiness is the ultimate goal. So make it happen. You are not powerless, you own yourself and your life. So take control, take charge and own it!


Life Bite: The Liebster Award!!

liebster-awardSo, I received a lovely surpise yesterday evening as I was cooking dinner (dressed in my lovely Hush pyjamas and looking rather terrifying with my Ren Face Mask on…) It seems Selina from The Kitten in Heels has nomintated me for the Liebster award! Okay, admittedly I didn’t really know much about what it was, but I saw the word award and that was good enough for me! It was completely unexpected, to be honest I’m fairly confident that very few people read my blog…which is fine, as I like writing for me, but I hadn’t dreampt that I’d be nominated for an award so thanks so much, Selena!

So basically, there seem to lots of different rules floating around about this award, so I’m just going with ther simplest and following the example set by my lovely sponsor! I’ll answer her 11 questions, and then create 11 new questions for the lovely ladies that I nominate, and the chain continues…

I think this award is a great idea: there are so many people starting up blogs or getting started in writing, which I think is brilliant because it’s such an accessible tool and vehicle for exploring your own imagination, writing skills and thoughts and opinions etc. It’s nice to see that people are keeping an eye on the little people!!

Alright, time to answer some questions!
1. Shopping or sleeping?
– Easiest question in the world. First of all, I don’t sleep much, I get by on 5-6 hours sleep a night pretty much always and I wake up at 6am every day…without fail…always…even when the clocks change!! So sleep was never going to win, but secondly…I adore shopping! Like, crazy…It doesn’t matter who or what I’m shopping for, I love it! Present and gift shopping for Xmas is almost narcotic for me…clothes shopping, for me or for others, furniture and interior design shopping I LOVE and even grocery shopping…I do love a trip around Waitrose!

2. Winter or summer?
Summer, summer, summer, summer…I LOVE SUMMER! I hate the cold. I cannot stand being cold, and I get cold easily, so when it’s really cold out, I’m like…nitrogen cold. There are plusses about winter though: I adore Xmas and put up with the cold for that…Xmas should be cold and wintery, it would be wrong otherwise, and Winter clothes are lovely, but the cold beats me down. I can cope with heat…I’ve dealt with 50c heat and I would hands down rather be too hot than too cold!

3. ZOMBIE APOCALYPSE!!! What do you do?
A lot of my mis-spent asolescence was ocupied in dealing with this question…no idea why. So there’s two answers to this question. Answer one: Immediately go underground, stockpile weapons and tinned food and blankets and clothing and medical supplies as well as as much fuel as I could muster. Work with a small team on reinforcing a truck or lorry in secret. Load the truck with supplies and then take to the streets. Swords not guns would be the more effective weapon of choice. Survival yeah!
But answer two is probably the real truth: Scream, panic and probably die withing 3 nanoseconds…

4. If you could go ANYWHERE in the world, where would you go and why?
Well the answer will change over time, but at the moment, New Zealand. I am desperate to go, the scenery, the culture, the entire entity of New Zealand…it calls to me! Oh, and the Lord of the Rings thing…but of course, once I go to New Zealand the answer here would change…There’s South America, Egypt, Japan, South of France (okay, I go to the South of France every year, but I love it so much I’ll always want to go back!)

5. Lightsaber or Batmobile?
Being as I’m totally not into either Star Wars or Batman, this is tough. I guess the Batmobile…nothing beats a kick-ass ride!

6. Preferred superpower?
Like witch-powers…conjouring I guess. The ability to make anything I want or don’t want appear or dissappear as I choose (objects and physical entities as well as ‘events’). Odd I know…

7. What’s your favorite book (or movie) of all time?
Okay, nerd alert, The Lord of the Rings. The Books, the Movies. Hands down everytime. In fact, no words can explain the relationship I have the The Lord of The Rings.

8. What are you most afraid of? (Spiders anyone?)
Well, I am not a fan of spiders, but I’m becoming more immune to them. I just kill them from afar now I’ve perfected the technique. This is actually tough to answer seriously. Peopbably the loss of a loved one. I’m pretty confident I would fall apart if I lost one of my parents…Heavy eh?

9. Someone offers you $100 MILLION in exchange for your identity… Would you do it?
Uh, yeah. Unless you mean in a literal sense. If all they want is my ‘official identity’ then they’re welcome to it, I’ve got records and fines and points on my licence…credit card bills and all that, if they want it they can have it! But I guess if you mean my ‘personality’ and ‘inner-being’ it would take more information…what would happen to me and my consciousness? How does this work etc. Am I thinking into this too much?!

10. What was the greatest moment with your best friend?
I could not say. I’ve had too many best friends and too many experiences…it’s very hard. Although, standing at the summit of a Himalayan mountain with one of my best friends (at the time, we haven’t spoken in months now) was pretty extraordinary. But then. I was fairly ill at the time so it wasn’t that ‘great’. I think when you can say you’re completely happy and content then that’s the greatest moment you could ask for. And I can happily say I’ve experienced that!

11. Do you like Nutella?
Why yes, I do like nutella. But I don’t eat it often. Nutella and peanut butter fudge brownies are a speciality of mine, but I only EVER make them when I go to visit my parent and brother. They are a heart attack in a baked good and about 5lbs in a bite!


And now, the two lovely ladies I’m nominating:

Anakiya at A Day in the Office and Annabel at Work That Style

My Questions:

1. Classic Style or roll with the trends?
2. Trip to the spa or DIY mani-pedi-facials?
3. Dog or cat person, and why?
4. White, Dark or milk chocolate? (And do not tell me you don’t like chocolate!)
5. Favourite event/holiday/celebration of the year?
6. Best James Bond? (We all KNOW Pierce Brosnan was the best…but who’s your favourite?)
7. Ultimate holiday destination and why?
8. If you could only eat, drink and wear one meal/beverage/outfit for the rest of your life, what would they be and why?
9. Favourite colour?
10. Red, White or Rose? Or does it have to be bubbly!?
11. Urban girl or Country at heart?


There we go, thanks again Selena for nominating me, and I look forward to seeing Anakiya and Annabell’s answers!


Friday Bite: The Importance of Being Selfish…


I read an article in Red yesterday about how to be a good mum, you need to be selfish sometimes and when my flatmate got home yesterday evening she told me she’d ended things with her boyfriend.

It was a fairly new relationship, but she’s not had many relationships before and I think it was quite a big deal for her (whatever she might say), but anyway, he’s been a little ill recently but over the last few weeks he’s been completely MIA. No texts, not answering phone calls – zilch. She got the train up to see him at home last week and it seemed to improve things; she discussed the lack of communication and he seemed to understand, but for the last week and a half, she’s not heard a peep and has done her best to get hold of him, short of turning up on his doorstep again.

Anyway, she ended it and it made me think back to the article in Red. I think we all need to be a bit selfish in our lives to be the best we can be, to ourselves and to others around us.

I’ve always tried to be true to myself and have worked on the mantra; “If you feel something, it’s the truth.” By this I mean, if you feel like doing something, then it’s probably what you should do…if you feel like NOT doing something, then don’t do it etc. Obviously this is within reason…we can’t just go about our lives doing whatever we want whenever we want to, but for the most part I try to do what feels right…in whatever context.

Remember the ‘Yes Man’? I’m fully in support of the ‘say yes to everything’ thesis, but I take it a slightly different way. I say: “Say yes to yourself!” – If someone asks you to go somewhere or do something and your gut reaction is ‘yes’, then say ‘yes’ – not to them, but to yourself. Likewise if someone invites you out or to an event and your instinct is to say ‘no’ then say ‘yes’ – to yourself!

“Saying yes to saying no” may sound like a bizarre, complex way of looking at things, but I’m all for saying yes to whatever fancy strikes you or whatever instinct takes hold, even if that means you have to say no. Have you ever been on a night out with friends and reached the point where you just want to go home? – I’m sure everyone has – but you’ve carried on through peer pressure, guilt, a feeling of duty etc. and therefore had a miserable night after? Well I take these instances and say; If your body and mind say you want to go home…just say yes to them! Go home and you’ll have had a better experience in the end.

The article recalled Airline emergency procedures; Always secure your own oxygen mask before helping others. This is because if you don’t do whats best for you, how can you be of any use to anyone else?

If you spend your life living for others and doing things you don’t want to do, you’re not going to have a very fulfilled life. If you’re not a little selfish now and then, and do what’s right for you, you’re not going to be the best person you can be, and really, is that good for anyone?

So go on, sometimes it’s ok to be selfish!