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Life Bite: Feminist Inequality in my Underwear Drawer!

In the great movement of ’embracing the female body’ I believe we have gone too far.
‘Women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful’. Okay, I accept this premise…to an extent.
Yes, curvy women are beautiful. Yes, no women should feel inadequate for being a size 12/14. Yes, society shouldn’t make a woman feel ugly for being larger.

BUT

A woman who is morbidly obese…200lbs and suffering major health issues as a result. Is this beautiful? No, it is not. And not because it’s ‘unnattractive’ (which is IS, but that’s not my main reason for seeing it as wrong.) But because it’s UNHEALTHY. Eating junk food and stuffing yourself full of fat and unhealthy foods (and if you’re morbidly obese, don’t tell me you eat super healthy and moderately etc., that CANNOT be true) is not healthy, it’s not good and it’s not ‘beautiful. Fine, if you’re ‘happy’ to look and be that way, then go ahead, but don’t you dare tell me I’m being unfair when I say it’s not good. It just isn’t.

The whole love your curves thing (although it doesn’t really apply to me) is great and I think that no woman who is a size 14 should be made to feel unattractve because of those curves, because you can be completely healthy at that size, in fact, a lot of women are. But there is a limit.

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And furthermore, in ’embracing curves’ I feel we are now discriminating against the ‘thin’. Some women have small builds and are naturally very slender. I am a size UK6, but I KNOW I eat healthily and also, a lot! I have chocolate and biscuits every day…like EVERY DAY; dinner is not over until I’ve had some chocolate for pudding. But I also eat a lot of fresh fruit and vegetables and whole grains. Every meal has carbs, I love bread and potatoes and pasta, but I eat MODERATELY and SENSIBLY. It doesn’t make me ‘annorexic’ or ‘unhealthy’ and I shouldn’t be discriminated against for being SMALL. Which I feel I can be.

I often have trouble finding clothes that fit me, as I have narrow hips (especially compared to my body itself…my hips are narrower than my shoulders and narrower than the standard ‘size 6 measurements’ which can be an issue for me. But I never have trouble pulling a size 16 off the rack. They are in abundance and I feel I am being discriminated against (a little, I’m not going to over exaggerate here…) for being smaller.

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Mostly, however, I find it in bras. The rise of the ‘plus size model’ (a term I don’t endorse, but it’s the generally accepted term and suits my needs here) and the embracing of ‘curvier’ girls means we now have bras up to and beyone 40K…which is fine, one of my oldest friends has a ‘G’ cup (which i used to be incredibly jealous of, but she does have back problems as a result, and I’ve learned to embrace my oppisite-end of the spectrum boobs) and she used to have big trouble finding bras. People were forever saying how unfair it was that bigger girls couldn’t buy NICE bra’s that fitted.

I can’t find NICE bras that are small enough. I am a 28A. I haven’t got much, but I still need some support! I can’t go bra-less, there’s enough there to make that a problem, but more and more lingerie specialists now are not making Bras in my size! Often I find a stunning set of lingerie (I had a major issue with this at the Cosmopolitan Lingerie Show), get all excited only to be completely broken hearted when they tell me (yet again) oh, we only start from 32B.

IMG_0294This set from ‘Gossard’ was my pick of the night, I was madly in love with it from the minute I saw it. I would have paid a lot of good money for the set, but guess what? Not in my size…They lost out on good money and a good customer (I’d have bought other things, such as the one piece further up if they’d had my size as well) because they don’t cater to the small. Fools!

In our desperate dash towards equality and embracing the ‘female body in whatever shape or size’ (or so they CLAIM) I think we’ve gone too far. Now there is inequality AGAINST smaller women. I get told I’m too skinny, or ‘figureless’. Fine, I don’t really care what you think, but I know I’m healthy, I know I eat well and I really resent not being able to wear nice clothes and especially lingerie because I’m small!!!

We’ve embraced cruvy women. We love our larger sizes and our curvier figures. They are catered for and accepted and loved. That’s great. I completely respect that and I think it’s wonderful. But, in all this, we’ve created a new inequality and a new discrimination. I can’t find a bra that fits. That isn’t fair. We’ve done the bigger sizes, the movement has been a success. Now can we please have a movement to re-accept the smaller figures please? I want to wear nice lingerie and clothes. Why should I suffer for having little breasts!!?!?!

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Fashion Bite: Autumn Staples

Fashion Bite: Autumn Staples

Now that i’ve got my Autumn/Winter colour palettes down, it’s got me thinking about the staple pieces and looks for the new season!

My first priority when the weather gets cooler is always warmth. I get cold easily and nothing makes me more miserable, so staying toasty and warm is my main priority; but I like to look good whilst doing it! I could get all bundled up in ski-gear and not dive a damn, but I’d rather not…so I’m looking at ways to layer and cover up whilst still looking good and stylish!

I have my colours…now I need the Pieces!

Cable-Knit

I’m loving cable knit this season, and it’s everywhere and in every fabric and style. You can get thick, chunky cable knit pullovers, or fine, fitted cashmere. There are cardigans and v-necks, crew-necks and roll-necks, but whatever your weave of choice, cable knit is a must!
Cable Knit
Open Cable Knit Cardigan in Grey – Massimo Dutti. Carrie Jumper in Cherry – Crew Clothing. Cocoi Cable Knit Top in Dark Grey – L.K.Bennett. Classic Cable V-Neck in Cerulean – Crew Clothing.

The Jumper-Dress

I’m sure you’ve all caught on to my love affair with Hush by now, and they have a gorgeous selection of jumper-dresses, in all shapes, fabrics, styles and colours, so you’re spoilt for choice. But it’s not only Hush, they’re being featured in many a line this season, and it’s not hard to see why. We all want to be warm and cozy, but why stop a sweaters and jeans? You can be feminine, chic and still stay warm with a cute little cashmere tunic and some thick tights and boots. Super chic and still toasty warm!
Dress
Felted Wool Dress in Burgundy – Hush. Cable Knit Maxi Sweater in Natural Cream – Massimo Dutti. Long Sweater Dress in Dark Charcoal Marl – The White Company. Bobbina Pointelle Knit Dress in Cobalt – Reiss.

Corduroy

I used to be against corduroy, but I’ve grown to love it recently. It’s thicker and therefore warmer than jeans – why do you think farmers wear it? – and this season it’s available in a huge variety of styles and fits as well as a great range of vibrant tones that have turned it into a statement piece and a staple for this season!
Cord
Skinny Cords in Ecru – Hush. 1969 Real Straight Cords in Ruby Wine – Gap. Skinny Corduroy Jeans in Charcoal – Jaeger. Cord Skinny Trousers In Ink Blue – Toast.

The Ankle Boot

I adore ankle boots and they’re all over the place this Autumn. In leathers, suedes, velvets…and with buckles and cut-outs and high heels and flat heels. It’s almost worth getting them in every colour and style imaginable as they can be the focal piece of any outfit. Just make sure you wear ankle-crops to really show off your boots – chelsea, cut out, jodhpur or side buckle. Whatever your look, there’s a boot to go with it!
Boots
High Heel Ankle Boot With Straps in Black – Massimo Dutti. Leather Ankle Boots in Blue – & Stories. Carnaby Boot in Praline – Boden. Leather Ankle Boots in Red Dark – & Stories.

Masculine Tailoring

Especially with the monochrome colour palette, a sharp cut shirt with fitted blazer and straight leg trouser is a look with which to make a statement. Be bold and ultra-chic with hard lines and crisp, contrasting colours. It’s all about the shirts and the jackets; tuxedo, blazer, crop or a full-on overcoat can be the item that brings an outfit together and sets you apart. There’s a reason that men’s suit’s have never gone out of style, a classic look shouldn’t be messed with, but why should the boys have all the fun?
Masculine
Straight Wool Trousers in camel – Massimo Dutti. Tulip Snake Silk Print Shirt in Indigo – Reiss. Bethany Jacket in Mulberry – Hobbs. One Button Blazer in Black – & Stories. Classic Drape Shirt in Cream – Jigsaw.

Accessorize, Accessorize!

It’s all very well layering up, but they accessories are what finishes the job. Scarves, wrist warmers, snoods, hats…well they’re all seasonal musts, but this season, make them the statement piece…the central focus of your whole outfit. Wear a vivid-red scarf and wrist-warmers with your monochrome shirt and jacket…throw on some animal print to liven up your neutral look or even just focus on the details and ensure that your belt matches your shoes and bag and that each different element fits in seamlessly with the rest of your outfit. Whatever you choose to do with them, just remember that the accessories are the key to staying warm and looking good this Autumn.
Accessories
Textured Knit Mittens in Ecru – Hush. Erin Hobo Bag in Oxblood Red – Toast. Narrow Leopard Print Belt – Massimo Dutti. Tuck Stitch Snood in Taupe Marl – The White Company. Leopard Contrast Scarf in Blue – Anthropologie.

Cover these simple staples in a variety of this seasons colours and you’ll be sure you have a wardrobe where you can create a thousand outfits with the minimal effort. Classic looks are classic looks for a reason, but you can always make them your own!

Friday Bite: Treat Yourself!

En-Route slurges is what I call it…

I’m working currently in the North East of London, and on my route to and from work are the shopping complexes of Canary Wharf and Westfields Stratfield City. Both of these happen to be attatched to stations where I have to change trains. This creates a little issue…

On my way home, I’m never in a particular rush and the trains that I need to get home all run every 4-5 minutes, so I’m never on a tight schedule train wise. Which allows me the option to stop off at the shops. This is very handy as there are Waitrose and M&S close to the stations in both of these complexes and I can grab any things I need for dinner easily on my way home.

BUT, there are so many other shops that I love…and they’re all close at hand! Option to go shopping is what I said, but It feels more of an obligation/compulsion!!!

That is why I call it en-route shopping! I’m not planning to go shopping, I have no list or object in mind, I just pop in for a quick browse on my way somewhere else…they just happen to be on my route!

This is what happened today. I finished work, got off the train at Stratford and instead of going straight to my connection, I turned right…right into spending a lot of money!

But then again, I had a lousy morning…overslept, cold-shower as I didn’t turn the water on early enough and then the kettle exploded HOT water all over me. Wasn’t a good start to my day, so I needed some cheering up. I needed a treat really, and that is exactly what I gave myself!

My haul!

My haul!

Ah John Lewis department store…how I love thee…

Picked up my favourite fragrance: Chanel no.19. It is my one true love and I never wear anything else! I normally wait until I can buy it duty free, but I’m not planning any vacations any time soon and I’m running rather low. Such a great fragrance, with the elegance of chanel but it’s not as ‘old’ as No.5. It’s younger, lighter but not overpowering or too sharp/fruity/sweet/strong etc.

Had a consultation at Clinique: I was undecided whether I needed a skin-evening primer, or a tinted moisturiser to even my skin tone and create a good base, and as I don’t wear foundation I need something light but that gives some coverage. I came away with their BB cream and I will get back to you on how it works out? …and then of course, I had to buy some eyeshadow as it was of offer!

Rococo Nails do great polishes st reasonable prices and in a great selection of colours. I pretty much just picked at random….

I love Neal’s Yard and I use their hand washes and body lotions, but I came across their cleanser and toner and thought I would give them a go. I need a new cleansing regime, as I like to switch it up so my skin doesn’t get ‘immune’ to it (maybe I’m going loopy, but I think my skin does become resistant to cleansing products) and I only like to use organic and major chemical free as it’s better on my skin. Once again, I’ll get back to you on how I find these products.

The candles were just there…I felt like I needed some TLC, and scented candles around a nice bath always does the trick. And they were reduced…score!

Everyone needs to treat themself from time to time. In my opinion, if you really want something…just get it. Go with your gut reaction and indulge yourself. Go on, whats the worst that could happen?